This blog is on a year-long arc of seeking clarity → narrative → truth → humility. It is a journey to uncover some of the hidden biases and assumptions that guide our lives. April becomes the month you learn to release certainty, soften your grip on being right, and step into the zone of curiosity.Continue reading “The Power of Not Knowing: Growth begins when certainty ends”
Author Archives: Linda L. Pilcher
Turning Toward the Truth: How to Face What You’ve Been Avoiding
This month, we have explored facing what we don’t see. What is stopping you that is unseen by you? Searching for answers in the wrong places, and why we avoid what we don’t want to know. Today’s topic is clarity as a framework for honest self-reflection. Why is confronting reality important? What hides in plainContinue reading “Turning Toward the Truth: How to Face What You’ve Been Avoiding”
The Ostrich Effect: Why We Avoid What We Don’t Want to Know
During March, we are looking at what you don’t see, or what you have been unwilling to see. We all have biases that may hold us back. There is a cost to looking away; avoidance can create bigger problems. The term originated from a myth in ancient Rome and has become common as a metaphorContinue reading “The Ostrich Effect: Why We Avoid What We Don’t Want to Know”
The Streetlight Effect: Searching for Answers in the Wrong Places
People tend to lean toward simple answers, familiar routines, or convenient explanations. Often taking others’ answers as their own with no substantial proof. Are you searching for answers where it’s comfortable, or where the truth actually lives? “If we look for answers in incorrect places, we’ll get answers that are incomplete.” Matthew Ruttan An exampleContinue reading “The Streetlight Effect: Searching for Answers in the Wrong Places”
What You Don’t See Is Holding You Back
We all have blind spots, such as seeking proof that you are right. A tendency to look for, interpret, and recall information that confirms our existing beliefs. Experts consider this a mental error or shortcut. We are bombarded with too much information every day; our brains need to filter out what is important from whatContinue reading “What You Don’t See Is Holding You Back”
Rewriting Your Inner Story: How to Change the Narrative and Change Your Life
Every day, without realizing it, you tell yourself a story about who you are. Some parts are true. Some are inherited. Some are outdated. And some quietly shape your destiny. Aligning our personal narratives with our deepest purpose and values helps us to have a more directed and intentional life. Changing the story changes theContinue reading “Rewriting Your Inner Story: How to Change the Narrative and Change Your Life”
The Focusing Illusion: Why One Thing Feels Like Everything
We constantly face stimuli that fight for our attention. Recognizing how our biases shape how we interpret reality is an essential task in self-understanding. My blogs are about self-discovery, exploring who we are and how we interact with the world. This month’s essay focuses on biases that can distort the truth. Today, we look atContinue reading “The Focusing Illusion: Why One Thing Feels Like Everything”
Belief Bias: When Your Mind Chooses the Story Over the Facts
You’ve had this experience: someone shows you clear evidence, and you still feel yourself resisting it. Not because the facts are wrong, but because the conclusion doesn’t fit the story you’ve been living. “What we see depends mainly on what we look for.” – John Lubbock This month is about the stories you live by.Continue reading “Belief Bias: When Your Mind Chooses the Story Over the Facts”
The Stories You Live By
A month about the narratives that shape identity, emotion, and possibility. The narratives running your life What drives our internal narratives? There are moments, blasts of mental replays. These narratives are unconscious, internalized stories shaped by our culture, family, and past experiences. These stories define our identity, thoughts, and behavior. Someone does not text youContinue reading “The Stories You Live By”
Building a Clearer You: Living with Greater Self-Clarity
This year, we are exploring techniques and strategies for self-knowledge. January has been a month of courageous looking inward. If you are following this blog, we have explored our biases, examined the stories we tell ourselves, practiced self-distancing, and built routines and strategies that help you see your inner world with more honesty and compassion.Continue reading “Building a Clearer You: Living with Greater Self-Clarity”